You already know office romances are frowned upon and discouraged only because they can create difficulties in a professional work environment but having said that, crushing on a co-worker can at times be inevitable and natural. But you don’t really want it to become a thing, unless of course you’re really in love with someone at work. Then you can act on it and figure how office romances can be done right.
But let’s focus on someone you have a crush on. Do you want it to become a thing? Or do you just want to crush on the person and not make it awkward? Let’s go for the latter, shall we?
Here are 5 things to keep in mind if you’re crushing on someone from your office space!
(1) Don’t ‘Act’ On How You ‘Feel’
It’s okay to have a harmless crush on someone but crushing on someone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to act out on it! You can admire them for their work, compliment them or even talk to them time and again but think thrice before you act out on your feelings in such a scenario. There’s a huge difference.
(2) Don’t Let Your Feelings Take Control Over You
Sometimes we think from our heart and not our mind. So, if in case you’re in that situation, then consciously think of a way to distract your heart, so your mind takes over and takes charge of your feelings. Your feelings don’t govern how you act and think in a certain situation.
(3) It’s Alright To Be Happy And Excited
Of course there’ll be sheer excitement when you come into work, to see that person and work with them but don’t let your excitement ruin things for you! You can look forward to each day and this can help you focus better too, since you’re always out there, trying to impress the person by looking sharp and confident in meetings and brainstorming sessions, by dressing up well etc. But remember your excitement shouldn’t get ahead of you.
(4) You Don’t Have To Feel Guilty For Crushing
Sometimes guilt can act as counterproductive. If you’re guilty on crushing on a colleague or your boss, you’ll constantly think about why’ve your crushing in the first place and that might lead you to do unhealthy and unproductive things. It can also make you feel awkward and you might act in a certain manner that’s unlikely of your behaviour in the first place. So, don’t feel guilty about a thing and enjoy it till it lasts.
(5) Don’t Confide About Your Crush To Many People
While you can tell your closest colleagues, you don’t have to tell the world about it! Not everyone you work with needs to know about your crush. It can become something bigger and affect your relationship with the colleague/boss you’re crushing on, if they ever find out through the grapevine. Tell a selected bunch you really trust so you can rationally discuss the details with them, whenever you feel like.
Office crushes are absolutely normal and you should definitely enjoy them till they last. If it’s more than a crush then you have to figure what you need to do next. Ether you take a step forward and tell the person how you feel, or you let go of the feelings. It all depends on the circumstances. So act wisely and have fun while you do so!