Being with an older woman is a different experience altogether. It’s really not the same as dating someone who is younger or of the same age. Relationships that cross generations are no longer frowned upon and dating someone older and wiser than you, always has a bright side to it.
I dated an older woman once. We didn’t last because she wanted to settle down and I still wanted to experience life and do my thing. It was the most amicable break-up I’ve ever had in my life.
When I look back now, I realise I learned so much from that relationship, some of which I will share with you guys.
But the fact of the matter is, if you’re really looking for something stable, dating an older woman is not a bad idea at all and here’s why:
Dating an older woman comes with a lot of perks. No kidding. They’re called ‘cougars’ for nothing! I mean, it’s just a respectful terminology for someone who is wild and eccentric in bed. Women usually reach their epitome of sexuality post 30 and they peak in their late 30s and early 40s. So, if you’re with someone that age, you know what you’re in for.
Not only is she experienced in the bedroom, she’s experienced in knowing what she wants from you and how to be with you and around you. The number of years she’s older than you, are the years she has experienced more than you, so always give her that respect, no matter what.
She has a plethora of interesting things that she might have discovered or experienced in her life and you can definitely learn a thing or two from her. In and out of the bedroom!
Not only are they mature in how they conduct themselves, the life decisions they make and managing everything on their own, they’re emotionally mature too and that’s really important.
Boys reach emotional maturity somewhere in their 30s when life gets more serious for them. Women, on the other hand, have always had that maturity, since they deal with a lot more emotions and by the time they’re older, it’s already there.
So, if you’re dating an older woman, by the virtue of everything she’s dealt with in the past, she’ll be more emotionally mature and equipped to handle any hurdle that comes her way.
It’s a major plus point if you’re dating someone older. All those senseless fights, taking care of your girlfriend all the time etc. will diminish. There will always be a sense of equality in the relationship.
She’ll Understand You & Give Your Great Advice
Again, it’s a packaged deal really. If you’re dating someone older than you, she’ll always be one step ahead of you, because she’s experienced things more than you have and she’ll offer some great advice.
So, if you ever need a listener or someone to give you sound advice, you already have her. Just make sure you’re there for her too and are not taking her wisdom for granted every now and then.
She Can Handle Her Alcohol
This is another major plus point, unless of course, you’re dating an alcoholic! Because she’s seen and been through her hay days of alcohol binging, she’s probably reached a stage where she doesn’t want to do that anymore and savour her alcohol. Even if she gets drunk, she’s not rowdy or inconsiderate. She can still hold her alcohol and take herself back home.
So, if you’re ever out on a date with her, you can have some really intense conversations with her, even with copious amounts of alcohol.
Her Tastes Are More Sombre
While you’re enjoying the city nightlife in your 20s, she’s already been there and done that when she was in her 20s. Her idea of fun could be very different from yours.
She’d probably like a quiet bar, where you two can hold a conversation, a play or a drive around town, rather than a loud night at a local club or a bar. However, that doesn’t make her boring, it just means her tastes are more refined and she’s done with being pushed around at crowded bars and being hit on by random men.
Take her to a house party and your friends will love her because she’ll definitely stand out and be the life of the party.
She Helps You Grow
If you’re dating someone younger or your age, you grow together, share the same perspectives and have the same or limited understanding of each other. But an older woman brings a fresher and newer perspective to your life and helps you grow with her experience, her wisdom and her ability to understand a lot more.
You will learn more, grow emotionally as a person and look at life differently, if you’re dating someone older.
While I was with someone older, life was easier and a lot of fun. We shared a lot in common, even though we were from different generations and we parted on great terms, sans the ‘drama’.